Both Miriam Grunbaum and her husband are the children of German-Jewish immigrants.
After World War II, her parents went to the United States; his, to Palestine.
Yet when she applied her convictions to Arabs, her husband thought her naive.
To come to Israel as a single woman and find your Israeli Prince Charming would appear -- at first glance -- to be the ideal way to integrate into Israeli society.
Not only do you have a husband who speaks the language and who knows his way around the country, you also have his family, whose presence should help to smooth the process of adjustment. The reality, as conversations with more than 20 American women married to Israelis reveal, is different.
"I trust Arabs who are Israeli citizens while he doesn't," she says.
"He feels that liberalism is a luxury that Israel cannot yet afford.