The risks of transmitting HIV are different for men and women, and your provider can give you information to help you conceive safely.There is also the risk of HIV re-infection (infection with another strain of HIV), which can result in harder-to-treat HIV superinfection.For more information, see CDC’s page on Serosorting among Gay, Bisexual, and Other Men Who Have Sex with Men.
Among the reasons it is not recommended is that serosorting does not protect against other sexually transmitted infections (STIs), such as hepatitis B virus (HBV), hepatitis C virus (HCV), syphilis, and herpes.
In some states, you can be charged with a crime if you don’t tell your partner your HIV status, even if your partner doesn’t become infected. In addition, to promote safe and voluntary HIV disclosure and address the barriers that may prevent some people living with HIV from disclosing their status, the President’s Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS (PACHA) and the CDC/HRSA Advisory Committee on HIV, Viral Hepatitis and STD Prevention and Care (CHAC) have issued Joint Recommendations on Safe and Voluntary Disclosure of HIV in the United States.
Some people living with HIV choose to practice “serosorting”—having sex only with partners of the same HIV status, often to engage in unprotected sex, in order to reduce the risk of transmitting the virus to an HIV-negative person.
Having HIV does not prevent you from dating or marrying—it just may require a little more responsibility and trust from you and your partner.
Disclosing your HIV-positive status to a potential intimate partner may be one of the most personal and stressful situations you will face.