I thought I would find that the vast majority of students revel in it, but instead I encountered a large percentage who feel confined by it or ambivalent about it (the “whateverists,” as I call them).Nervous to be alone in challenging hookup culture, most students go along with it, even if they privately long for alternatives.
I chose to dress sexier than I ever had and to stretch the boundaries of what I considered acceptable.
And back then, I didn’t know anyone else who had done it.
Hookup sex is fast, uncaring, unthinking, perfunctory.
It has a lot less to do with excitement or attraction than with checking a box on a list of tasks, like homework or laundry.
We think of college as a place where kids, perhaps free from their parents’ watchful eyes for the first time, can experiment sexually. After all, hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex.