To Seku, “Traditional relating is just not matching up. Some men look elsewhere in order to feel like they’re not dying.
They want to reproduce what they felt when they first met their wife.
I am one who believes monogamy can be fulfilling and successful.
May I suggest that the DWM who approach those of us who are Dating While Single (DWS), try something as simple as honesty?
In my research on the topic, having all parties participate in a truthful courtship seems to go a long way. Here are some guidelines from conversations with those for whom it has. Decide if a DWM lifestyle is appropriate for you and your partner, or just you./span Rakhem Seku and his wife Hakashamut Kenya K Stevens are the founders of Juju Mama, LLC, a progressive love movement with workshops and a support network for progressive relating.
Seku says, “Marriage is a great club to belong to say ‘I’m married’ and flash the ring.” He says he meets many men whose “intention is to be exclusive, but it’s not working for them.
They may be losing their libido or desire for life.” But he also points out a number of reports that 70% of divorces are initiated by women.
A recent dinner with a past acquaintance has brought me to a place where I now know a conversation on why-I-even-dressed-up-for-a-dinner-with-a-man-I-had-no-idea-was-married-until-we-were-well-into-dessert is very much needed.