It is not uncommon for the betrayed partner to feel pity for his or her partner and focus attention on him or her.
The feelings are there and they are very strong, and it will cause more harm, eventually, than good by stuffing them or hiding them.
That is why finding a counselor, having supportive friends, and being a part of a group are extremely important in providing a safe outlet for the partner’s full expression.
Incorporating a healthy lifestyle by getting plenty of rest, eating properly, finding some time for exercise, and scheduling times for fun will give the partner’s body, mind, and spirit the energy it needs to cope with daily stress.
The person feeling betrayed may experience a sense of shame that results in the temptation to shut down, or to numb the pain by suppressing the painful feelings.