A few years ago I got friendly with a woman online.
It was flirting, just sexy chat but it never became physical.
There’s a contradiction here between what happened – something that was intimate and sexual, that you ended in favour of your marriage.
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Your letter is a useful place for you to unpack how you’re seeing and talking about things.
You knew this was a secret non-monogamous relationship.
In your longer letter, you go on to say ‘it never became sexual’, ‘it didn’t mean anything’, ‘I feel like I’m being punished for something I didn’t even do’ and that your wife ‘accused’ you of ‘having an affair’.
You say that you enjoyed flirting and sexual chat with someone online.