The next thing that happens after you break up with someone – this is after the tears, the drama, the denial, the anger, the acceptance, maybe a sneaky shag, more anger, more acceptance and then closure – is moving on.In an ideal world, you’d be the one to get in first and have a new man to throw all of your energies into, and if you admit it deep down, you probably wouldn’t mind your ex hearing about how happy you are.It is easy to want to compare yourself to your ‘replacement’ and wonder what he sees in her, but the reality is that you’ll probably never know and you’re burning up energy better used elsewhere.
But the reality is that it’s probably not going to happen like that and it’s a littttttle bit childish.
Does it really matter which one of you starts dating first and does it that he’s dating?
Whilst it’s unfair to generalise, some men are very much ‘out of sight, out of mind’ and because some won’t shed tears, hide at home and bury their heads in tubs of icecream, they will propel themselves back into the dating pool and ‘get on with things’ rather than dwell on the emotional fallout from the breakup.
Whatever his reason, he’s getting on with his own life whilst you’re focusing your energy on thinking about him. You may think it’s too soon, and maybe it is, but that’s not for you to worry about.
Instead of thinking ‘Oh sh*t, the bastard can’t have cared that much if he can get over me so quickly!