Very rarely can a breakup lead to a solid friendship, and until you’re okay with the idea of your ex dating someone new — and vice versa — you’re not ready to be pals. You don’t have to sob at the office, but take some quiet moments to reflect and be honest with yourself. It’s healthier to express yourself honestly than grow numb.Don’t key his car, kidnap his cat, or destroy his stuff. Maybe you’d just rather be in a bad relationship than be in no relationship at all. Learn what you can from the relationship that just ended and move forward. Be thankful that the wrong relationship ended to free you up for the right one.
The temptation may be to pretend you’re unaffected by the breakup; don’t let pride get in the way of being real.
Right now, you’re not looking for a friend who looks exactly like the person who broke your heart.
You can have all the good advice in the world coming at you when you've just been through a relationship break-up.
Yet somehow, as Sex and the City's Carrie found after her numerous goodbyes with Big, that doesn't make coping with your heartache any easier.
(If you share the lease, deal with it like responsible adults. Resist the urge, however, to call or text whenever you would have when you were still dating. Ask a close friend if you can call him/her every time you would usually reach out to your ex. Besides, if your ex rejects you a second time, it won’t just hurt; the rejection will sting with extra humiliation and regret.