I asked her one question, and the response I received was pure gold. When you’ve got a bunch of emails to choose from, it’s pretty hard to select one that, in the one moment it has to advertise, offers only the word “(none)”. So, generally I’ll go back and find their original message, reread their new message, look at their profile, and decide whether to respond. I actually think it’s not a bad idea to send two emails to everyone you write, if you feel like spending that sort of time on Internet dating, and don’t mind veering dangerous close to serial killer zone.
You may think this applies only to men looking for women, or folks trying to attract someone a bit out of their league – but that isn’t so. Most captivating subject line in that assortment goes to…the guy who wrote “86”, I guess? I’ve just gone from spending 10-30 seconds on your email and probably not even looking at your profile to a few minutes thinking about you. But you gotta handle the second email just right (for suggestions, follow the link). A third email is a little too Bates Motel for Olivia’s tastes.
Olivia’s answer to my question can help any dude or lady who tries their hand at internet dating. I mean, two random digits are better than just tossing out a “Hey,” or an alarmingly creative “Heya,” right? ” fellow kinda intrigues me, like if you opened his email it would just go on listing a bunch more racket sports. And only Well gang, I hate to say I told you so, but — actually, no I don’t. If I haven’t responded to your second attempt, I’m clearly not interested.
My question: What’s the one thing I can do in my Match email to make sure you’ll respond. First thing to consider is something you probably think little about: your subject line. So, don’t send a third, fourth, or fifth message to someone. A third attempt comes off as desperate and obsessed.
Because my landlord is really getting tired of that.
To elucidate her point, Olivia sent me a screengrab of her inbox. I have had some guys seriously send multiple messages with no responses.
I don’t know what they’re thinking, but clearly they can’t take a hint.