You cannot “get them” to not judge him and be supportive of your decisions. Besides the fact that they don’t have to judge him – a real judge already did – and found him guilty. Third, unless your family has a history of having family members incarcerated, so that having a husband or a fiancé in jail is somewhat normal, you have made a bad choice.
Dear April Masini," My fiancé and I are both 37 yrs old.
My fiancé is currently in jail on a probation violation. I love him so much and still want to marry him when he gets out, however, I have to explain his situation to my parents because our wedding is going to have to be postponed.
In fact, many women write to men who are on death row -- either seeking them out themselves, or answering ads that prisoners put in newspapers or other public media outlets looking for companionship and more.
There are people who make mistakes and then go on to live perfectly productive lives. Why do you want your parents approval and support so bad?
However, your particular fiancé not only got arrested – he violated probation. How important was it to him not to violate probation? Is this behavior of getting arrested normal among his family? Is it because you don’t have the guts to say what you know that they will – which is, dump him and find someone better and more deserving of the grand prize that you are?