Perhaps somewhere down the line a failed date may have even turned into a successful matchmaker for as the saying goes “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure”.
In the end, when we date as if it were a game, nobody wins. To my surprise, after deep analysis, I realised that I was in fact the problem. I would downplay my fabulous fashion sense, talk-up my sporting prowess or exaggerate my interest in certain types of music.
While I don’t claim to be a love professional or a coach, I have certainly been on my fair share of dates and I feel that I have learnt a few lessons along the way. There were three mistakes that I continuously made which could explain why dating was so daunting. As part of my self-reflection I noticed that this form of self-editing was evident to varying degrees throughout most of my dating history. If a relationship is formed on the basis of either one of you not being your true selves then you will have no choice but to keep up the charade until the truth eventually comes out (and it always comes out).
“The Dating Game” as it is often referred is an intricate play of tactical maneuvers, distinct rules, and pre-determined positions between two foreign teams who are brought together to achieve mutual victory.
The problem though is that nobody knows the rules, the positions are ever changing and the maneuvers that are learnt in training normally don’t work on the field. I followed all the rules and believed that with practice would come perfection but I never seemed to score a goal. There was the guy who spoke only about his ex-boyfriend for the duration of dinner, the personal trainer who refused to eat anything that wasn’t green and the gorgeous Italian boy whose English skills were much better online. Instead of seeing a date as an interview, where probing questions are exchanged and potential candidates cross-examined, dates should be seen as exciting opportunities to meet new people.