Like women, men don't always say exactly what they're feeling precisely when they feel it. When he initiates physical contact under the guise of another reason, it's a test to see how you respond to his touch, Wood says.
But guys don't have to say much to show you what they're thinking. Because touch is a tool he uses to test your limits, it could mean he's only interested in sex, Wood says. Because this position exposes his man parts, which are full of sensitive nerve endings, it's a vulnerable position that could mean he's willing to put himself out there (literally 12. Because the pelvis is overtly sexual, Wood says, it often signals sexual interest — or lack thereof. Because the feet are involved in the fight-or-flight response that kicks in when you're in danger, they're largely controlled by the unconscious mind — and can be very telling in social interactions.
Being in a relationship with someone who isn’t that in to you is hurting you way more than it would be to break up with that person.
I could tell you all the ways to know when you’re dating someone who is completely head over heels crazy about you.
But knowing when someone is just “ehhh” about you isn’t so clear. I mean, why would you want to think you are with someone who doesn’t realize you’re the cream of the crop, right?
That's because unconscious body language signals can be extremely telling, says Patti Wood, a body language expert with more than 30 years of experience and author of 1. Either you're in a super-dark place, or this subtle signal means he's into you. People tend to use this subconscious expression to help open their eyes when they like what they see. If he really likes you, though, he might pull back extra-slowly and smile sweetly as he does it, which means he wants to take the time to get closer to you. If he angles his hips away from you, it's probably the latter. "The feet tend to point where the heart wants to go," Wood says. If he crosses them in a way that turns his torso and upper body away from you, he might be disinterested. Wood says this could be a sign he's keeping his options open. So feel him out, and look for other signs on this list before you go reassure him. When he holds your hand, he presses his palm against yours.
"Dilation is a brain response that occurs when you like and are attracted to something," Wood says. If he raises his brows ever so slightly while you're talking, it means he's interested in whatever you're saying. He might not show off a toothy grin while casually flirting, but on a really awesome date when he's having loads of fun? Real smiles extend well beyond the mouth: They lift the forehead and give you slightly squinty eyes. When you're attracted to someone, your mouth produces extra saliva, Wood says. You might think that a guy who is totally enamored by you will find it hard to peel his eyes away. But when he subconsciously takes a deep breath — he'll pull in his stomach and puff out his chest — it's a subconscious way to make his upper body look broader and his waist look smaller, two qualities that make him look more fit and (from an evolutionary perspective) more desirable, Wood says. In a noisy bar, this sign might not hold much weight. Of course, timing is super important in interpreting the feet: If you're talking to a guy who seems interested, you touch his arm, and then see his feet angle away from you, the context says he's no longer interested. But if he crosses his legs away and turns the rest of his body toward you, it could just mean that he's shy, depending on the guy. But don't rush to judge a great conversationalist just because he chats you up while he faces forward. The throat represents communication and vulnerability, Wood says. This kind of full-fledged hand-holding signifies a desire to connect. If he's constantly two steps ahead of you, it means he's more concerned about himself than you, Wood says.
So, even though you may think you can get this person to love you a little bit more, save it for the romantic comedies and move on to another love story. Not on the road, and especially not in your dating life. If he is or she never calls you, texts you or asks you to get together — all signs point to he’s/she’s just not that into you.